Tell it Straight

I recently came across this statement by Elizabeth Gilbert:

‘Maybe we must all give up trying to pay back the people in this world who sustain our lives. In the end, maybe it’s wiser to surrender before the miraculous scope of human generosity and to just keep saying thank you, forever and sincerely, for as long as we have voices.’

I think we are all better off for saying thank you even for the stuff in life you don’t like.

My interviews on creative women were all met with enthusiasm.   Similar to the promises I heard from a few that claimed they would buy my book.

We live in a time where keeping your word has lost its meaning. In the news, powerful men say two meaningless words and think it erases their improper conduct. Folks mutter three words without any real sentiment or feeling. When I hear these repetitions I wonder if anyone considers that their words and actions have an impact and reflect their personal integrity.  Integrity demands that we contemplate with truth and honesty. And as we know, if you can’t be authentic with self, you won’t be with others.

A few years ago I came across a teaching that emphasized what I call CCJ. No criticism, condemnation or judgment. I work at integrating that teaching into my life. It has been challenging.

So I am grateful that when I asked another woman for an interview she agreed. Because I know she trusts herself, trusts me and follows through.

In this time of giving be grateful for that which you give and receive.  With authenticity, you can feel good about the reflection you see in the mirror, and about the choices you make.


  1. Ouch! I’m so glad you have found someone else to interview. There are so many interesting women out there that have wonderful tales to tell from which we can all learn. BTW, don’t give up on your interviewee who did not come through for you. I had the same experience w/an interviewee. I sent her questions and didn’t hear from her for months and months. It turned out she was going through a difficult time and had set the questions aside and forgotten about them. When she finally answered them and sent me some wonderful pictures, it was well worth the wait. In the meantime, I am very much looking forward to your interview.

    Cheers, M-T

  2. I understand your sentiments Linda. It can be challenging, and sometimes painful, to have people say “No” to a project we hold dear. This situation is not foreign to me. The best we can do is keep moving forward. Thanks for the reminder to keep in mind that we have much to be grateful for, even when we feel disappointment arising.

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